Dare to Be Brave

One night while watching TV, I landed on a reality-based show featuring three talented women who were vying for the title of being the best (in their field). To make it to the final competition, the women had to fly to Europe.

One contestant confessed that she was afraid to fly. Not willing to give up without trying, she made plans to make the trip. On the day of departure, she walked on board the plane, but that's all she could manage to do. Her fear of flying overwhelmed her and she exited the plane. Doing so meant she had to withdraw from the competition.

Watching the scene broke my heart. And I'm sure it broke hers too.

In 2000, I had a fear that stopped me. It was the fear of speaking in public. To cure myself, I joined Toastmasters and eventually (let's just say it didn't happen overnight) solved my problem.

My cyberfriend Beth Blair (Desert Mama) confessed to me not too long ago that she had a similar fear. Here's her latest report:

"I gave my first speech last night and I did GREAT! I was so so nervous driving there but when I got up to speak I felt okay. Then after the first minute or so I became totally relaxed. The best part was everyone laughed when they were supposed to. I received some really, really nice feedback. Thank you for the encouragement! It's an amazing feeling to get up and do something that I have been fearing my entire life."

Yes it is, Beth. Yes it is. I remember playing a scene over and over in my head when I was working so hard to overcome my fears. The scene went like this...

The room would be full of people...at least 50 to 75...and I would walk up to lectern to give my talk. As I approached the lectern, I would turn, look and smile at the audience. I would be calm and relaxed...I would have no stressful reaction (hand shaking, brain freeze, wobbly voice). All would go smoothly and according to plan.

And one day, just as I imagined and believed could happen, the scene unfolded in front of me. I stood at the lectern in front of a group of 50+ women. It worked! It worked!

Today's message is about facing what scares you! Don't let a fear of flying stop you from going to your France.

Instead do something about it....start doing something about it today!

Would love to hear comments from others who have overcome fears and how you did it.

Allyn Evans
http://www.allynevans.com/
http://www.thealertparent.blogspot.com/
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Don't Jump!

This is a repeat of an article from my ezine and a follow up to the last round of blog entries. Would love to hear from you about this. I know my subscribers sure had fun giving their opinion.

My most recent blog post sparked some comments and feedback, which of course I always LOVE.

In one response, someone believed she had put the ‘cart before the horse’ and had gone out on her own too early. This going out ‘too early’ ended up in a failed business. I knew exactly what she meant because I’ve “been there and done that!” Another woman said that she needed money now. She was going to fall back on something that had worked before, but felt she was betraying herself. She asked, “What about my dreams?” Another, a divorced mom, simply needed money.

When I wrote “Grab the Queen Power,” I was new to the publishing business and also naïve. At that time the words from “Field of Dreams” danced in my head. You know the famous line, “If you build it, he will come.” Although, I believed the “he” would be a “they,” doesn’t matter because I believed it. Author Marsha Sinetar’s words “Do what you love and the money will follow” became a mantra I repeated often.

And then I jumped. Freefall time. I fell hard and fast. I couldn’t find anything to grab on to—not even some Queen Power! It hurt me, my pocketbook and my confidence.

So, after my ‘been there and done that’…believing those words isn’t as easy anymore.

Sure, those statements and beliefs have measure. However, I now believe things work a little differently.

First off, don’t jump off the cliff. What do I mean by this? I mean don’t quit your day job or try to launch a project or business without the needed resources, skills or courage—this is cliff jumping at its best. It’s scary, it’s unsafe and well, it’s doomed to fail.

The manifesting talk has gone too far and leaves out important information. It’s like putting ice cream on top of poop, as one author put it. You have a mess in front of you—finances, emotions, frustrations and fears, but you cover it up in mantras and vision boards. The truth: there’s a KEY piece missing. Seriously, folks…it’s major. It’s the piece that requires physical action in a very physical world while also demanding you take a hard look at reality.

If you need money to live, you know what? You need money to live. If you are the only source or a major contributor to your family income, then again, it’s probably more likely that you need to be earning money the best way that you know how.

Okay, you know I would never say don’t pursue your dreams. I wouldn’t! But I do say, “Be smart. Take the temporary position or hold on to your current job while you plan, save and pay off debt.” I did this. Others did this.

Make a plan, be patient and in the meantime work on those fears and emotions that continually stop you in your tracks. The time will come when you can jump. But even better, there will come a time—a perfect time—when you’ll choose not to jump, but instead ride off into your sunset.

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Reign on and many blessings,

Allyn Evans
http://www.allynevans.com/

P.S. If you want to know what books we recommend you read, visit: www.queenpower.com/recommended.html. My favorite right now and one not listed yet (because I haven’t finished reading it) is Maria Nemeth’s latest book: Mastering Life’s Energies: Simple Steps to a Luminous Life at Work and Play. If you are challenged with money issues, The Energy of Money is an excellent starter book.

http://www.queenpower.com/

This blog is by Nicole who is kind enough to share her journey with us.
http://www.myjourneytothequeendom.blogspot.com/